Managing Yourself - Part I: Motivating Yourself

OK, so Amon and I kinda read the first part of Grolier Business Library's 'Managing Yourself'. And I found out that I am a person that may be motivated by what I want to ACHIEVE and the feeling of BELONGING to something, someone or a group.. Amon is definitely a person motivated by the need to have influence.. hehe..

This book further explained that while we are either (or may be influenced by 2 or all 3) of these motivators -- needing to achieve, needing to belong and needing to influence... we are driven by factors that may motivate us. The author setted up 5 drivers that dictates on how we do things, which individually for each person might be different. These drivers may be used for us to set our own standards when we do things... These drivers are: Speed, Perfection, Approval, Effort and Strength. Speed is the standard of a person who's always in a hurry. These people will never miss deadlines, are known to be efficient, may need less time for preparation, are quick-thinking and works best under pressure..with strict deadlines. Unfortunately, these are the people who would tend to be impatient and may pressurise others, who's always hasty and are prone to mistakes, talks quickly and may be interrupting (plus won't be able to listen to other people), rushes a bit too much to be on time and may not have enough time to check on potential mistakes. (This is soooo Amon and Sin)
A person bound on the standard of perfection are known to be accurate at making any jobs, less likely to make mistakes, will always have contingency plans for potential problems, reliable, well-organised and are always well-presented. On the other hand, these people may be so detailed that they may confuse others, would be a bit slow because they always have to make sure that their work is right, very critical, may lead to hesitation, often have hard time to trust others so that everyone will abide to the perfection standard as well, and may be quite poor at meeting deadlines. (Mommy, Nabs, and sometimes me)
The person who'd standardise him/herself to the Approval of others are usually those who are called pleasers. These people are good at smoothing things over, who are also good-listeners, intuitive, kind and considerate, understanding and well-liked. I want to admit that I am this, but I am not sure that I am always a kind person, although I always put other people's feelings before mine :P.. The disadvantages for these kind of people is that they may cause misunderstandings due to acting on intuition rather than checking facts, may not tell people the truth although they know that these people are wrong (because they'd hate to upset people), may be seen as weak, due to reluctance to put forward ideas and opinions, they might also have difficulties in saying NO (nang aku la),... and take criticism too personally (emotional).. (Yep this is me.. and Amon padah Liyana too.. because she's a sweet and sensitive person.. I'm not too sweet I guess)..
Forth driver is the standard of the Trier, a person driven by Effort. These people are hardworkers and they will never give up...They are enthusiastic, thorough (will look at all the possibilities and options), well-motivated, and yep, they work HARD! The downturn of having this as a driver is that they can turn simple tasks become hard due to the enthusiasm, they may start things, but never finish it..may volunteer for too much, becoming over-committed, and will be more concerned with effort rather than success! I know Sin is a hard-worker who's well motivated, but I think he always finishes his work ba...
Strength reflects the standard of the coper.. they never over-react and panic, they deal calmly with angry, upset or difficult people, and they could deal with difficult and stressful situations. They are very good at handling crisis when others panic, they are very honest, predictable, reliable and steady. But they may have the tendency to be afraid of letting people down. They can be hard to know, because their feelings are covered up. Besides that, they might not be aware of this, but being so strong may make them feel over-loaded inside, because they'd refuse to seek help from people and they hate admitting weakness. They see failure to cope with everything as a weakness. I see a lot of this in Athila. She's a very strong person, but I doubt that she's all emo inside. Maybe she is, who knows... but we love you just the same, hunny :)

I'm gonna continue with this soon... this kinda things are a bit eye-opening when you read more and more on it :P It may not be too accurate, maybe it'd help me work out my hidden strength :D

I'll come back with more... gotta do some work now..

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Nadia!